I’ve decided to leave Twitter for the time being, and the leave may be permanent.
I’ve long been upset with the culture of Twitter – the cliques, the pile-ons, the sheer number of unbelievable egos running rampant over there (my ‘favourite’ is a DM screaming BUY MY BOOK! BUY MY BOOK NOW! when they can’t even do me the courtesy of following back!)
However, when I ask a simple yes/no question (that I can’t research on Google) or, God forbid, ask if someone could please glance over 1300 words of my own writing and tell me generally what they think… crickets and tumbleweed.
I have run afoul of “Mens Rights Activists” who have insulted, abused and harassed me.
I’ve had people demand I read and review their books on my own time, and haven’t even bothered to thank me.
I’ve had complete strangers DM me to demand I retweet their stuff.
I’ve had people DM me to ask for money, who’ve then guilt-tripped me when I’ve honestly replied that I have none.
I’ve run into the Hashtag Gestapo, who’ve become belligerent when I’ve “misused” a hashtag that I think they actually believe they own.
I suspect that most of my “followers” actually have me on Mute. And there’s a very telling problem with Twitter and its culture: it allows you to “follow” people and then provides a button for you to, essentially, unfollow them immediately without their knowing.
Yes, I’m a bit angry over it, but more than anything, I’m just so tired. I’m tired of people taking from me and offering absolutely nothing back. (And just so we’re clear – I don’t ask for much back. Just a short answer when I ask something. Just someone to offer to help me in exactly the same way I try to help others with their writing.)
Are there some great people on Twitter? Absolutely. An incomplete, off-the-top-of-the-head list of examples include: Keira Drake, Ben Willoughby (and his wife, who posts under Willoughby Editing), SA Hunt, Kat Kennedy, CM Thompson, Kris Holt, Paul David Chambers and Alex Bledsoe. These are some of the few people who treat others like they’re humans.
Never say never again, but I’ve deleted the app and have no immediate plans to come back.
As for the books I’ve already accepted and said I’ll review – of course I will. I’m a woman of my word (however long it takes to fulfil that word!). But I’m afraid I won’t be accepting new books from complete strangers anymore, either.
I miss you already. I understand perfectly how you feel.
Best of luck to you.
*hugs*
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Don’t drop out of the picture, Chris! You’re on the side of the angels (Yes, I know I sound slightly unhinged on this post and people will probably take offence to it, but it’s been coming for a long time…) xx
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So sorry Twitter’s been such a horrible experience for you, Naomi. It sounds as if you’ve been rather bombarded 😦 I’d be more than happy to have a read of your work if you think I’d be any use. I’m @KEColeswriting on twitter 🙂
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Thank you 🙂
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Echo the sentiments already expressed, Naomi. Personally, I’ve never really understood the fuss or real benefit of Twitter, but I suppose it meets a need of some sort.
I don’t have a great deal of spare time myself, but I’d be perfectly happy to give a submission from you the once-over, as long as you don’t mind a sometimes rather long turnaround. Best Wishes.
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When it stops being fun, it stops. Simple as that.
Right decision there, N. Doesn’t mean forever, hardly anything is irreversible in the online world.
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Honestly, in a way I think I’m just… changing as a person. There was a time when certain forums on a certain site were a huge part of my identity and took up a lot of my free time. Yes, there were problems with other members, etc… but I changed, too. x
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I just saw this. Haven’t been on twitter myself for a few days. I’ll miss you
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Yes, I’ve made this statement myself more than once and I’d have to say that I’ve had much more success in networking as a writer than a blogger. As a blogger it was only about what I could do for them (with exception of a few), but as a writer, its been more of a team of scratching each others backs. I’m afraid that we, as blogger/reviewers can often be overlooked. I’m sorry for your experiences and hope that I can become one of those on your short list (just followed you ☺️).
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